The Thrill of the Ride: A look back at 2016

Hello Love Bugs!!

Happy New Year! I know it has been quite some time since my last blog post. I have been working on material, but of course life has been happening at the same time. I want to thank you all for rockin with me through this blog for now 3 whole years!! I cannot believe that we re-launched “Coco’s Couch” 3 years ago! There has been so much growth and development with this site, and I pray that you as a reader/supporter have felt growth through these messages over the years.

For this post, I just wanted to reflect and recap 2016. I have heard so many people say how 2016 was a tough year for them. Heck, I too have found myself saying that as well. And maybe for many, 2016 was a tough/bad year. For me, 2016 was like a bumpy rollercoaster experience at an amusement park.


Me, Brandee, & Nicole waiting for one of those crazy roller coasters

Over the summer, a couple girlfriends and I took an impromptu trip to Kings Island. To my surprise, neither one of them were thrilled about riding rollercoasters. I was the one who was all the way “turned up” for the thrill of the ride. However, they were good sports and entertained my excitement by getting on a couple rides with me.


Each time as we approached a ride, we noticed we had to wait in line. The waiting at times was unbearable, but as we got closer to actually getting on the ride, anxiety began to build . . . nervousness began to emerge . . . and excitement began to overwhelm us all at the same time. Now we are in our seats on our cart, and here comes those emotions again. We have to wait until everyone is secured for the ride. As the ride took off anxiety and nervousness began to stir up with every inch the car made up the coaster track, to the peak of the track. Right before the drop, we start to grab each others arms and hands because we cannot believe we are putting ourselves through this. We are at the top and see this drop, then before you know it, down we go. Screaming to the top of our lungs, anxiety, nervousness and now fear entraps us and we want this crazy ride to end. We are twisting and turning, looping in half circles, going up and down, and the ride is shaking us so hard that we felt like at any moment we will break. After a minute or two of this, the ride is over. We exit the cart, regain our balance, take a deep breath, and realize “that wasn’t so bad after all”. Now excitement fills us up, because we realized that we conquered that roller coaster . . . we are now more courageous and stronger then we ever realized.


Photo Cred: Google Images Kings Island Roller Coasters


This was my 2016. Full of all those above mentioned emotions. Full of highs and lows . . . twists and turns . . . shaking and bending. I have been on one crazy roller coaster. Changes in friendships, heartbreak, rejection, betrayal, receiving recognition/honor/blessings, taking a leap of faith, launching two businesses, building a ministry, going to seminary, having fear taunt me, awesome vacations, amazing road trips, and losing my father a few weeks ago.

Just like being on that crazy roller coaster, I wanted 2016 to end quickly. Now that it is over, I have realized that I am more courageous and more stronger than I ever imagined. I realized that life is a like a roller coaster ride. We have to adjust to every twist, turn, high, and low. We have to know that no matter how hard it gets, God is right there with us. He manufactured this roller coaster, and His plan is for you to finish the ride trusting Him more, relying on His strength, and having the courage to follow His plan.

So as I wait in anticipation for the things I prayed for in 2017, I’m excited to hop on the roller coaster one more time.

Blessings to you!


Remember this: Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God!

Not Cheated But Chosen

Ever felt like you’ve been cheated by God? Like you are constantly getting the short end of the deal? I know me asking this as a Christian seems a bit strange, but let’s be real for just a moment. Many of us at some point or another have felt cheated by God. If that’s not the case for you, then that’s awesome! I, myself, would be lying if I said I have never felt this way before or at times can still feel this way. Of course I haven’t turned my back on God, but I have questioned when is it my turn? Why am I being jipped?

In my flesh, I at times look at my sacrifices and can’t make sense of why some things haven’t turned around for me.

I can’t make sense as to why I take two steps forward just to feel like I’m taking four steps backwards.

I can’t make sense of how I have decided to surrender myself to Him and still feel like I’m fruitless in some parts of my life.

I can’t make sense of how I can serve God, serve His people, and put my all into it & yet I feel attacked from every angle. And sometimes have no one to pour into me.

I can’t seem to wrap my tiny, little brain around the fact that I gave up my promiscuous ways, stopped dating random guys, and started doing this dating/purity thing God’s way and a sista haven’t been on a single date since.

I can’t understand it and because I can’t make sense of it, I begin to feel cheated!

It was about a month ago when Priscilla Shirer came to minister to us at my church. In her sermon, she gave an illustration of a friend of hers that gave up her nice paying corporate job out of obedience to God. She goes on to share about the sacrifices this woman made out if pure obedience but things were not blooming for her. After a while of feeling defeated, she shares that the Holy Spirit told her friend, “You haven’t been cheated, you’ve been chosen!”

When she spoke those words that particular Sunday, I got chills! All the times I felt cheated by God, now made sense. I have been chosen.
It was confirmation that through it all, I am being strengthened as I continue to put my trust and faith in Him. He chose me and He chose you for such a time as this. You are the best soldier for the job! Understand that He who began a good work in you will carry it through to completion (Philippians 1:6)

Now, every time I begin to feel cheated, I remember those words: You have not been cheated; you’ve been chosen!

God has not forgotten about you! Keep pushing, & keep believing that He will make due on all of His promises. Remember obedience is always better than sacrifice!

Be encouraged!