Lessons From A Single: I Am Complete!

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow!! This day is a day that many singles dread. I can remember a time when I would dread this holiday as well. It was a reminder to me that I was once again alone, single, and no one wanted to be with me. Now you may have these feelings, but someone reading this does. And . . . this was totally me for years!!! Part of my problem was that I seriously did not think I was complete unless I was in a relationship. All through high school, college, and most of my 20’s was spent in some ways feeling the NEED to be in relationship with some guy. This thinking lead me down a road of failed relationships, increased insecurities, toxic relationships, to just hooking up and dating random guys out boredom or loneliness. I was not feeling complete at all . . . matter of fact, I began to feel broken. I was shattered, and eventually a piece of me left with every random I felt hooked to that showed me any type of attention.

One day, I got tired. I gave up. I cried out for help in this area of my life. I began drawing closer to God, ended up in therapy, my relationship with God became a priority, and I began to find healing. Healing . . . allowing God to love me . . . embracing and accepting that love . . . loving me . . . I became complete! I realized I was complete all along!!

Take a look at the video below, as I share more on how I came to this realization some years ago. My prayer is that this Valentine’s Day be a day to remind you of the one who created you, shaped you, has a plan and purpose for you . . . the one who loves you. No man . . . degree . . . status . . . material possession can fulfill you with love and joy like God can. Enjoy the video and remember to subscribe to my YouTube channel!

~ Hazel~

Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

Singleness & Valentine’s Day

Hey love bugs!

So I have been trying to post this video since yesterday. As you can see, I’m trying to switch some things up on here LOL. So, email subscribers, I’m so sorry for the multiple emails about this topic with nothing to see, but I think we have it fixed.

Valentine’s Day can be a tough time for many singles, but it doesn’t have to be. Do not let this one day . . . this man made holiday . . . get you down and out about your season of singleness. You are loved period! Check out the video . . . I hope to share more on this topic soon. Spend this “love” holiday reflecting on all the ways you are loved and spending time with those who extend love towards you!

High Price, High Value…Know Your Worth!

I can remember a period in my life where I didn’t realize or even understood the depth of what it meant that I was bought at a high price!

In the past I have made promises to God to no longer give my body away to some guy that I thought was worthy of having all of me just because he was nice, he seemed to be a gentleman, he was honest, he was charming, he treated me to nice dinners & weekend getaways, he did nice gestures just because, he made me feel special or because he was filling to my appetite in every way and therefore I let my flesh take over and gave in. I would give him my most prized possession. Every now and then he will still make deposits to woo me…those deposits were just storing up until I cashed out and give him my most prized possession again.

And once the honeymoon phase was over I was left feeling shamed, I felt guilt, confused, trapped, and desperately wanting to work out whatever it was we had because of the many intimate moments we shared…not realizing it was doomed to fail. All of this because I didn’t realize my worth. I didn’t realize I was worth more than anything he could deposit. I then found myself in the same cycle over and over again. I found myself saying the same prayer. I eventually found myself at a low point where I was numb, and most of all tired of the same type of relationships…relationships turned “sex”ships!

I had to start honoring God with my body. How could I every get the godly man God had for me if I kept “marrying” men that never put a ring on my finger? “Marrying” men that didn’t have a relationship with God. “Marrying” men that didn’t have any intentions on marrying me, but wanted all the benefits that came with marriage.

So I finally said no more! God values me too much! I’m WORTH more than any earthly possession. I’m WORTH someone who see my worth and values me, God, and my body enough to wait even when his flesh is weakened (and when mine is weakened too). I am WORTH someone who understands the importance of honoring God with OUR bodies and waiting for the ONE God has for us. I am WORTH someone who will deny his fleshly desires because he knows the reward is greater when we do things Gods way. He understands that obedience is better than sacrifice. I am WORTHY of that man!

I now know the value that God placed on me. So everything about me is valuable including my time. Therefore, I will be and am very selective in who gets my time. The guy that I am worth having will understand that time spent with me is the prize. So he will have no problem with making deposits that will sustain a godly friendship, godly relationship, and a godly marriage.


Sis, understand your worth. Your body is not your own. It is a temple and a sacred place. Your body belongs to God! It took years for me to come out of sexual immorality. And it took even longer for me to realize that value that God has placed over me. Understand the value God has placed on you. Know that you were bought at a high price, and that no one loves you more than Christ does! So honor God with you body! Wait for the one God has for you…wait until you are married to your king. The two will then become one, and it will be acceptable in God’s sight. Abstinence is possible…even in your relationship! Are you up for the challenge?