Detour to Destiny

Good morning love bugs! I had another post in mind for this week, but this has been pressing on me harder. Maybe because this is currently where I find myself. Maybe because while I’m in a frustrating season, I’m trying to keep my faith and focus. Maybe because someone else is out there reading this, feeling relieved that they are not alone. I’m not sure, but whatever the reason is I know I needed to touch on this.

Many people who step out on faith, are not sure how God is going to lead them on their faith journey. They see the vision, the destination of where God is taking them, but often times are unsure of the journey it will take to get there. Yet…with all this uncertainty, they are sure that it will ALL come together…things will somehow work out. Sounds very inspiring right?

This is truly how I felt about stepping out on faith: walking away from my job to start building Perfectly Imperfect Inc., selling Premier Designs Jewelry to support Perfectly Imperfect Inc., attending seminary full time to get my Masters Degrees in Divinity and Marriage & Family Therapy. I had no clue how this journey would be, but I knew I needed to step out on faith and literally trust God for every measure of provision.

What happens when discouragement set in? What happens when you start to think that maybe you heard God wrong in this thing? What happens when you hit those extremely slow seasons in generating income and you begin to question everything?

It’s these frustrating moments that I can’t help but to believe that every entrepreneur or person who stepped out on faith have from time to time. It’s these moments that you feel that you are now on a crazy detour leaving you wondering if you will ever reach your destination.

So, after some time of feeling like this, and watching how God would subtly show me that I’m right on track, I began to feel this message: Detours does not always mean you will not reach your destiny.

And just like that…mood change! Attitude change! Disposition change! I have to embrace the detours that life can bring at times. So I took to Instagram yesterday with this message in case someone else was beginning to feel like I was feeling (see video below):

When life sends you on a detour, it could be God’s way of protecting you from some unseen danger/hinderance, the detour posed for a better route to help develop you, or maybe it’s God’s way of testing your patience and seeing if your disposition about the journey will change…who knows why we often experience detours…One thing is for sure is that if we keep our focus on the Lord we will reach the destination He has already predestined for us to receive! Keep pushing, keep pressing, keep persisting…You got this!!!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

No Escape

I have several nieces and nephews, and now great nieces and a great nephew. They all are very different and unique in their own way. Each of them have their own special relationship with me. While they are very different, they all had one thing in common when it came to me: they would follow me everywhere I would go. They were like my little shadows, and some of the really young ones are still this way.

They would follow so close sometimes that I would accidentally knock them down if I made a quick turn. There were times I felt like I couldn’t escape them. However, the older they got the less interested they became in what I was doing and where I was going…they began to discover their journey.

I can remember moments of feeling relieved when this would happen because then, I could easily escape from them to do what I want, eat what I want (you know you have snuck away to eat something so a kid wouldn’t see it and beg for some), and have conversations that I wanted without interruption or innocent ears present.

Reflecting on this about my nieces and nephews, made me think about my journey with God and moving toward my fulfilled purpose. I began to remember moments along the journey that I tried to escape God because I wanted to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to hang where I wanted to hang. Drink what I wanted to drink. Smoke what I wanted to smoke (that ended quickly). Sleep with whoever I wanted to sleep with. Yet there was No Escape.

Then I began to remember moments where amazing doors were opened. Where I found/find myself doing things that I never thought I would do. Traveling places I never dreamt of seeing. Meeting people I would have never thought to connect with. Realizing in these (and more) amazing high moments I never escaped God.

One thing I’m learning is this:

In this journey, there are high moments and low moments. There are moments when everyone is rallying around you, and moments when you have not one person to talk to. Times when you feel invited and times when you feel the invitation must have been lost in the mail. No matter where you are in this journey, no matter what is thrown at you, and no matter what mistakes you make along the way, God is always with you. With Him there is No Escape!

His love can reach you on whatever road in this journey you are on; and His grace is more than enough to sustain you. The reminds me of David’s words in Psalm 139:

“O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:1-10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

May you find peace in knowing that with God, there’s No Escape!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God.

The Thrill of the Ride: A look back at 2016

Hello Love Bugs!!

Happy New Year! I know it has been quite some time since my last blog post. I have been working on material, but of course life has been happening at the same time. I want to thank you all for rockin with me through this blog for now 3 whole years!! I cannot believe that we re-launched “Coco’s Couch” 3 years ago! There has been so much growth and development with this site, and I pray that you as a reader/supporter have felt growth through these messages over the years.

For this post, I just wanted to reflect and recap 2016. I have heard so many people say how 2016 was a tough year for them. Heck, I too have found myself saying that as well. And maybe for many, 2016 was a tough/bad year. For me, 2016 was like a bumpy rollercoaster experience at an amusement park.


Me, Brandee, & Nicole waiting for one of those crazy roller coasters

Over the summer, a couple girlfriends and I took an impromptu trip to Kings Island. To my surprise, neither one of them were thrilled about riding rollercoasters. I was the one who was all the way “turned up” for the thrill of the ride. However, they were good sports and entertained my excitement by getting on a couple rides with me.


Each time as we approached a ride, we noticed we had to wait in line. The waiting at times was unbearable, but as we got closer to actually getting on the ride, anxiety began to build . . . nervousness began to emerge . . . and excitement began to overwhelm us all at the same time. Now we are in our seats on our cart, and here comes those emotions again. We have to wait until everyone is secured for the ride. As the ride took off anxiety and nervousness began to stir up with every inch the car made up the coaster track, to the peak of the track. Right before the drop, we start to grab each others arms and hands because we cannot believe we are putting ourselves through this. We are at the top and see this drop, then before you know it, down we go. Screaming to the top of our lungs, anxiety, nervousness and now fear entraps us and we want this crazy ride to end. We are twisting and turning, looping in half circles, going up and down, and the ride is shaking us so hard that we felt like at any moment we will break. After a minute or two of this, the ride is over. We exit the cart, regain our balance, take a deep breath, and realize “that wasn’t so bad after all”. Now excitement fills us up, because we realized that we conquered that roller coaster . . . we are now more courageous and stronger then we ever realized.


Photo Cred: Google Images Kings Island Roller Coasters


This was my 2016. Full of all those above mentioned emotions. Full of highs and lows . . . twists and turns . . . shaking and bending. I have been on one crazy roller coaster. Changes in friendships, heartbreak, rejection, betrayal, receiving recognition/honor/blessings, taking a leap of faith, launching two businesses, building a ministry, going to seminary, having fear taunt me, awesome vacations, amazing road trips, and losing my father a few weeks ago.

Just like being on that crazy roller coaster, I wanted 2016 to end quickly. Now that it is over, I have realized that I am more courageous and more stronger than I ever imagined. I realized that life is a like a roller coaster ride. We have to adjust to every twist, turn, high, and low. We have to know that no matter how hard it gets, God is right there with us. He manufactured this roller coaster, and His plan is for you to finish the ride trusting Him more, relying on His strength, and having the courage to follow His plan.

So as I wait in anticipation for the things I prayed for in 2017, I’m excited to hop on the roller coaster one more time.

Blessings to you!


Remember this: Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God!

The Harvest Is Coming 

Ever felt like the more you do, the less you get? Not that you do certain things with the expectation of getting something in return, but every once in a while it would be nice to see some positive results for the work or good deeds you’ve been doing. I don’t know about you, but there are times where I feel like I’m always getting the short end of the stick. Now do I believe this to be true? Not most often, but sometimes it feels that way.

I read an article that talked about the life cycle of wheat. The article mentioned “winter wheat” which is used for baking bread/rolls. It goes on to state that this wheat is planted in the fall (October – December), and it grows over the winter months. The seeds do not harvest until Spring/early summer. The farmer has to wait a good 7-8 months after seed sowing before a harvest typically comes. Now I believe that pending weather conditions may make this process a little longer. Regardless, the farmer waits for the proper time of harvest before he receives any benefits of his seed sowing labor. 

Scripture says: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians‬ ‭6:9‬ ‭NIV

After doing a word study on this text in its original language, here is what I discovered:

“become (grow) weary” – be discouraged

“proper time” – one’s own season

“give up” – give out; become weary

There are 3 principles I was able to get from this text: 

1. Don’t be discouraged in doing good. Continue to plant those seeds into good soil. Continue to love others as Christ would want you to. 

2. Have confidence that the seeds you’ve been planting will reap a harvest! It will happen in the proper season. God knows when it’s harvest time for you. Be diligent like a farmer who waits for the proper season for his crops to harvest. He does his part by working the soil, sowing multiple seeds, watering the ground, and waiting for God to provide the increase. You may be a seed planter, provide the watering, or both but it’s God who supplies the harvest in the proper season.

3. Be patient waiting on the harvest. Your time will come, but if you give out too soon you’ll miss your harvest. Some of you may be on the cusp of your harvest season! Don’t get discouraged and give out! Harvest season is coming!

Father, thank you for being so awesome and amazing! Thank you for your protection and the provisions that you give us daily. Thank you for the immeasurable amount of grace that you provide even though we are not deserving of it. Lord help us to continue to try to imitate our lives after you, to have a heart like you have, to see others the way you see them, and to love the way you love. Forgive us for times where we have become frustrated in our sowing of good deeds, for times where we have made things all about us, for times of frustration leading to actions outside of your will, and for moments of not trusting you the way we should. Help us to remember that our doing good/our good seed sowing is not in vain. Help us to endure the time waiting on our harvest to come. Give us the strength, patience, and comfort needed in times when our emotions get the best of us and we are wanting to give up. Restore our minds in those moments. The enemy has no authority over us for you have already given us the victory in Christ Jesus. As we wait for the harvest season in our lives, we are comforted that your timing of increase will be at the most perfect time. We are praising you in advance for what is already done and what’s to come from the seeds we’ve sowed. We will be sure to give your name all the glory, honor and praise! In Christ name we pray, Amen. 



Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God! 

Adjust to the Season

I don’t know about you, but summer has to be my favorite season of the year. I absolutely LOVE everything about summer. 

I love the way the sun kisses my skin.

I love that the days are much longer.

I love the cookouts, fairs, summer concerts series, outdoor eating, and day parties.

Some of my best road trips are during the summer.

I love sitting poolside or relaxing on the beach.

I love tank tops, sandals, and sundresses.

I love SUMMER!!!
But as much as I love summer, I know it will come to an end. Then, it’s just a matter of time for the season I dislike most is upon me . . . winter. I’m one of those people that hibernate when winter season approaches. I can’t stand the cold elements lol. 

As much as I love summer, I do not wear my summer clothes in the winter season. I adjust myself (change clothes) to match the season I’m in; even if I don’t like it. 

This my friends, is how we need to treat the different seasons we face in life. Remember seasons change; and as seasons change, you need to change your clothes. You need to adjust to the new season in your life. 

                            Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV): There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.

This difficult season you may be facing has a time limit to it. Once you embrace this, you will find yourself adjusting. While you’re in this unfavorable, less desirable season, seek the Lord on how you should adjust. Ask Him what He wants you to do in the meantime. Focus on the good your see in this season. Although this may not be your favorite season, be intentional about seeking God in it. Let Him help you to adjust, so that you are well prepared for everything this season will present to you. Remember, there is a time limit . . . embrace this journey . . . a new season is around the corner!

Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God!