Detour to Destiny

Good morning love bugs! I had another post in mind for this week, but this has been pressing on me harder. Maybe because this is currently where I find myself. Maybe because while I’m in a frustrating season, I’m trying to keep my faith and focus. Maybe because someone else is out there reading this, feeling relieved that they are not alone. I’m not sure, but whatever the reason is I know I needed to touch on this.

Many people who step out on faith, are not sure how God is going to lead them on their faith journey. They see the vision, the destination of where God is taking them, but often times are unsure of the journey it will take to get there. Yet…with all this uncertainty, they are sure that it will ALL come together…things will somehow work out. Sounds very inspiring right?

This is truly how I felt about stepping out on faith: walking away from my job to start building Perfectly Imperfect Inc., selling Premier Designs Jewelry to support Perfectly Imperfect Inc., attending seminary full time to get my Masters Degrees in Divinity and Marriage & Family Therapy. I had no clue how this journey would be, but I knew I needed to step out on faith and literally trust God for every measure of provision.

What happens when discouragement set in? What happens when you start to think that maybe you heard God wrong in this thing? What happens when you hit those extremely slow seasons in generating income and you begin to question everything?

It’s these frustrating moments that I can’t help but to believe that every entrepreneur or person who stepped out on faith have from time to time. It’s these moments that you feel that you are now on a crazy detour leaving you wondering if you will ever reach your destination.

So, after some time of feeling like this, and watching how God would subtly show me that I’m right on track, I began to feel this message: Detours does not always mean you will not reach your destiny.

And just like that…mood change! Attitude change! Disposition change! I have to embrace the detours that life can bring at times. So I took to Instagram yesterday with this message in case someone else was beginning to feel like I was feeling (see video below):

When life sends you on a detour, it could be God’s way of protecting you from some unseen danger/hinderance, the detour posed for a better route to help develop you, or maybe it’s God’s way of testing your patience and seeing if your disposition about the journey will change…who knows why we often experience detours…One thing is for sure is that if we keep our focus on the Lord we will reach the destination He has already predestined for us to receive! Keep pushing, keep pressing, keep persisting…You got this!!!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

No Escape

I have several nieces and nephews, and now great nieces and a great nephew. They all are very different and unique in their own way. Each of them have their own special relationship with me. While they are very different, they all had one thing in common when it came to me: they would follow me everywhere I would go. They were like my little shadows, and some of the really young ones are still this way.

They would follow so close sometimes that I would accidentally knock them down if I made a quick turn. There were times I felt like I couldn’t escape them. However, the older they got the less interested they became in what I was doing and where I was going…they began to discover their journey.

I can remember moments of feeling relieved when this would happen because then, I could easily escape from them to do what I want, eat what I want (you know you have snuck away to eat something so a kid wouldn’t see it and beg for some), and have conversations that I wanted without interruption or innocent ears present.

Reflecting on this about my nieces and nephews, made me think about my journey with God and moving toward my fulfilled purpose. I began to remember moments along the journey that I tried to escape God because I wanted to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to hang where I wanted to hang. Drink what I wanted to drink. Smoke what I wanted to smoke (that ended quickly). Sleep with whoever I wanted to sleep with. Yet there was No Escape.

Then I began to remember moments where amazing doors were opened. Where I found/find myself doing things that I never thought I would do. Traveling places I never dreamt of seeing. Meeting people I would have never thought to connect with. Realizing in these (and more) amazing high moments I never escaped God.

One thing I’m learning is this:

In this journey, there are high moments and low moments. There are moments when everyone is rallying around you, and moments when you have not one person to talk to. Times when you feel invited and times when you feel the invitation must have been lost in the mail. No matter where you are in this journey, no matter what is thrown at you, and no matter what mistakes you make along the way, God is always with you. With Him there is No Escape!

His love can reach you on whatever road in this journey you are on; and His grace is more than enough to sustain you. The reminds me of David’s words in Psalm 139:

“O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:1-10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

May you find peace in knowing that with God, there’s No Escape!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God.

Who Do You Please? People vs. God


Hey love bugs!

So this is probably one of my random post that I make from time to time due to how my thoughts will race, and the heaviness I feel in my heart to get it out. So here it goes:

This morning I was halfway listening to T.D. Jakes’ podcast on a sermon he did called “Favor Ain’t Fair”. Now I say halfway because I was rushing trying to get ready to walk out the door to head to the 9-5, but wanted to have something spiritual going in the background. I needed to hear a word, but wouldn’t slow down long enough to hear the word (now that will preach . . . hmmm . . . that may be a blog post). So therefore I was “halfway listening”.

Anyway, one of the things I did catch was him saying, “Your gifts, your anointing, and your blessings are not for you. They are for the glory of God (paraphrased).” At another point he says (as I paraphrase again), “Sometimes God will bless you with something that doesn’t make sense to others. It may not make sense to you. He will have you do something that to others make no sense at all, and will give you provision to do what He told you to do. And when  He blesses you, folk will be mad because that can’t make sense of it or can’t believe that ‘you’ are the one receiving the blessing. Favor ain’t fair.”

So, here I am now with these snippets playing in my head. I begin to think of all the things that God has blessed me with. I then begin to think of how He has transformed my life ever since I decided to surrender to His will for me. In this process, there were things He has told me to do that didn’t make sense to me or to some people around me. Why me? I still do not have the answer to that. But what I am learning is that He doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the call. I know this because nothing that I am doing is in my own power: blogging, speaking, teaching, ministering  . . . this is Him working through me!

For the longest, I would try to explain to people why I’m doing the things I’m doing. I would try to explain this tug that I feel to move in the direction I’m moving. I would try to explain the doors He would open. Nothing I would say made sense. Why me? I don’t know. Why you? I don’t know.

Favor ain’t fair! Sis, you do not owe anyone an explanation to why God is moving in your life the way He is moving. You don’t have to explain why you were given that promotion, that ministry, that book idea, that deal, that healthy relationship, those kids, that degree, whatever it is. You don’t have to explain your anointing or your blessings. But you do have to give all the glory to God. You have to start living your life before an audience of one, and know that you don’t need approval from these humans who don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in. You don’t have to walk on eggshells and live timid about what God is doing with you and through you. God’s approval is all you need sis. Stay humbled, and be unapologetic about God’s move in your life. Favor ain’t fair . . . none of us are deserving.

I ask you: Who do you please? God or people?

Stay blessed,


Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God!”




Weary in Waiting

Good morning loves! This was on my heart this morning, and I posted it on this blog’s Facebook page and my Instagram page (@HazeyVHaze). You can follow me on both pages! I pray that it blesses you!

Don’t grow weary in waiting. Many of us (I include myself) are in a waiting period. We are waiting for that opened door, for a turn around in our finances, maybe for the season of singleness to be over.

Whatever you’re waiting for, know that God haven’t forgotten about you!

Don’t let the enemy trick you into thinking that nothing good is coming from your waiting, and cause you to take matters into your own hands.

As your fleshly mind grows wear in waiting, go to God in prayer. Pray for discernment and wisdom on what He wants you to do.

Be assured in knowing that God’s timing is perfect and He cares for you, so your waiting is not in vain. He is strengthening you to handle the very thing you’ve been waiting for!

But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (‭Isaiah‬ ‭40‬:‭31‬ NKJV)

Not Cheated But Chosen

Ever felt like you’ve been cheated by God? Like you are constantly getting the short end of the deal? I know me asking this as a Christian seems a bit strange, but let’s be real for just a moment. Many of us at some point or another have felt cheated by God. If that’s not the case for you, then that’s awesome! I, myself, would be lying if I said I have never felt this way before or at times can still feel this way. Of course I haven’t turned my back on God, but I have questioned when is it my turn? Why am I being jipped?

In my flesh, I at times look at my sacrifices and can’t make sense of why some things haven’t turned around for me.

I can’t make sense as to why I take two steps forward just to feel like I’m taking four steps backwards.

I can’t make sense of how I have decided to surrender myself to Him and still feel like I’m fruitless in some parts of my life.

I can’t make sense of how I can serve God, serve His people, and put my all into it & yet I feel attacked from every angle. And sometimes have no one to pour into me.

I can’t seem to wrap my tiny, little brain around the fact that I gave up my promiscuous ways, stopped dating random guys, and started doing this dating/purity thing God’s way and a sista haven’t been on a single date since.

I can’t understand it and because I can’t make sense of it, I begin to feel cheated!

It was about a month ago when Priscilla Shirer came to minister to us at my church. In her sermon, she gave an illustration of a friend of hers that gave up her nice paying corporate job out of obedience to God. She goes on to share about the sacrifices this woman made out if pure obedience but things were not blooming for her. After a while of feeling defeated, she shares that the Holy Spirit told her friend, “You haven’t been cheated, you’ve been chosen!”

When she spoke those words that particular Sunday, I got chills! All the times I felt cheated by God, now made sense. I have been chosen.
It was confirmation that through it all, I am being strengthened as I continue to put my trust and faith in Him. He chose me and He chose you for such a time as this. You are the best soldier for the job! Understand that He who began a good work in you will carry it through to completion (Philippians 1:6)

Now, every time I begin to feel cheated, I remember those words: You have not been cheated; you’ve been chosen!

God has not forgotten about you! Keep pushing, & keep believing that He will make due on all of His promises. Remember obedience is always better than sacrifice!

Be encouraged!