Lessons From A Single: I Am Complete!

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow!! This day is a day that many singles dread. I can remember a time when I would dread this holiday as well. It was a reminder to me that I was once again alone, single, and no one wanted to be with me. Now you may have these feelings, but someone reading this does. And . . . this was totally me for years!!! Part of my problem was that I seriously did not think I was complete unless I was in a relationship. All through high school, college, and most of my 20’s was spent in some ways feeling the NEED to be in relationship with some guy. This thinking lead me down a road of failed relationships, increased insecurities, toxic relationships, to just hooking up and dating random guys out boredom or loneliness. I was not feeling complete at all . . . matter of fact, I began to feel broken. I was shattered, and eventually a piece of me left with every random I felt hooked to that showed me any type of attention.

One day, I got tired. I gave up. I cried out for help in this area of my life. I began drawing closer to God, ended up in therapy, my relationship with God became a priority, and I began to find healing. Healing . . . allowing God to love me . . . embracing and accepting that love . . . loving me . . . I became complete! I realized I was complete all along!!

Take a look at the video below, as I share more on how I came to this realization some years ago. My prayer is that this Valentine’s Day be a day to remind you of the one who created you, shaped you, has a plan and purpose for you . . . the one who loves you. No man . . . degree . . . status . . . material possession can fulfill you with love and joy like God can. Enjoy the video and remember to subscribe to my YouTube channel!

~ Hazel~

Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

Detour to Destiny

Good morning love bugs! I had another post in mind for this week, but this has been pressing on me harder. Maybe because this is currently where I find myself. Maybe because while I’m in a frustrating season, I’m trying to keep my faith and focus. Maybe because someone else is out there reading this, feeling relieved that they are not alone. I’m not sure, but whatever the reason is I know I needed to touch on this.

Many people who step out on faith, are not sure how God is going to lead them on their faith journey. They see the vision, the destination of where God is taking them, but often times are unsure of the journey it will take to get there. Yet…with all this uncertainty, they are sure that it will ALL come together…things will somehow work out. Sounds very inspiring right?

This is truly how I felt about stepping out on faith: walking away from my job to start building Perfectly Imperfect Inc., selling Premier Designs Jewelry to support Perfectly Imperfect Inc., attending seminary full time to get my Masters Degrees in Divinity and Marriage & Family Therapy. I had no clue how this journey would be, but I knew I needed to step out on faith and literally trust God for every measure of provision.

What happens when discouragement set in? What happens when you start to think that maybe you heard God wrong in this thing? What happens when you hit those extremely slow seasons in generating income and you begin to question everything?

It’s these frustrating moments that I can’t help but to believe that every entrepreneur or person who stepped out on faith have from time to time. It’s these moments that you feel that you are now on a crazy detour leaving you wondering if you will ever reach your destination.

So, after some time of feeling like this, and watching how God would subtly show me that I’m right on track, I began to feel this message: Detours does not always mean you will not reach your destiny.

And just like that…mood change! Attitude change! Disposition change! I have to embrace the detours that life can bring at times. So I took to Instagram yesterday with this message in case someone else was beginning to feel like I was feeling (see video below):

When life sends you on a detour, it could be God’s way of protecting you from some unseen danger/hinderance, the detour posed for a better route to help develop you, or maybe it’s God’s way of testing your patience and seeing if your disposition about the journey will change…who knows why we often experience detours…One thing is for sure is that if we keep our focus on the Lord we will reach the destination He has already predestined for us to receive! Keep pushing, keep pressing, keep persisting…You got this!!!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

Be Still

Work. Kids. Husband. Boyfriend. Family. Ministry. School. Volunteering. Friends. Household maintenance.

Go back and re-read those words, and pay attention to the things that came to mind or how your body reacts to the thoughts that come to mind.

If you are anything like me, you have all of these things on your plate and more. You may even find yourself struggling to fulfill all of these things in a days or months’ time. Do you find yourself frustrated saying, “There is just not enough time in the day!”? I know I do. Being an entrepreneur with a staff of one (me), full time seminary student, serving in ministry at my church, managing a blog site and small group, volunteering, spending time with friends and family, supporting other friend’s endeavors, trying to keep a clean home, and have some fun social time, can take a toll on me mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Because of all these responsibilities, it is important for me to get still sometimes. Be still. In the past, I had no idea what that was like. In all honesty, I didn’t want to know what being still was like. I ran from stillness. I avoided stillness. I was disgusted with the thought of stillness. I wanted to fill every moment, every minute of my day so that stillness couldn’t creep in and arrest me. You see, stillness for me was having to face my own thoughts. Now, I look at stillness differently. Stillness makes you confront things that you have been avoiding. You cannot be cured from the things you won’t confront.

Not only that, stillness has a way of allowing you to release, gain perspective, and be present in the moment. Often, we spend a great deal worrying about what happened yesterday or what will happen in the future. For many of us, we are too busy planning ahead that we can’t appreciate all the wonderful things that is happening in our now. Stillness forces you to be present.


The thing that I love the most about stillness now, is that it allows you to hear God clearly. When we are not still, we miss out what God is trying to reveal to us. It is hard to hear God clearly when there is a lot noise happening around you. We have to intentionally schedule time to get still before God. Turn off all distractions, take the thoughts that creep into our head and lock them in a box in our mind, invite God to come into the space of stillness you created and speak to you. Breathe deeply and relax your body . . . focus on the moment. Talk to God about your concerns. Let Him reveal himself to you and reveal things about you. Listen to the things He tells you to do. Get still before the Lord.

Stillness is something that can come voluntarily or involuntarily. If we do not intentionally take time to sit still, our bodies will shut down on us to force us to sit still. So, in the midst of our crazy schedules, and all the things we manage, I encourage you to take 15mins a day to sit still before God. Let Him help you prioritize your day. Allow Him to bring peace to your mind and heart. Rest in Him, and know that He is God.


Lord . . . Thank you so much for giving us opportunity to come before you and rest in you. Help us to make time to be still before you each and every day. Forgive us for the times that we have avoided stillness, and put things and people above you. You are a God who is concerned and very much involved in all that you create. Your word tells us to cast our cares upon you because you care for us. Help us to remember that as we find ourselves being busy just to mask our cares and concerns. Remove anything in our hearts that will be a distraction from us making time to sit still before you. And when we do find stillness, we ask that you enter in and fill us with your presence. Show us who you are, reveal to us what you will have for us to do, ease our worries of yesterday and tomorrow, and help us to relax and enjoy the present. We ask these things in Jesus name, Amen.

Remember this: Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God.


Singleness & Valentine’s Day

Hey love bugs!

So I have been trying to post this video since yesterday. As you can see, I’m trying to switch some things up on here LOL. So, email subscribers, I’m so sorry for the multiple emails about this topic with nothing to see, but I think we have it fixed.

Valentine’s Day can be a tough time for many singles, but it doesn’t have to be. Do not let this one day . . . this man made holiday . . . get you down and out about your season of singleness. You are loved period! Check out the video . . . I hope to share more on this topic soon. Spend this “love” holiday reflecting on all the ways you are loved and spending time with those who extend love towards you!


Hey love bugs! 

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. – Proverbs 31:10 KJV

This past Sunday was the launch of my small women’s group called VIRTUE! For the past year or so, God has placed on my heart to start a small group for women. The thought of this initially scared me. I couldn’t help but begin to question why. Next after why was “what if no on shows up?” After entertaining these thoughts, I began to remember the times God has placed something on my heart to do, and how when I moved towards that direction, He totally provided along the way. 

So I later started brainstorming what to name this group, and seeking God on exactly what would be the purpose of gathering a group of strangers together. To try to keep myself on task, I began posting little reminders around my place. I didn’t want to lose sight of this new task. Now keep in mind this was about a year ago! 

I wanted to start right away, but things were not lining up. I knew that if this was something that God really wanted me to do, He will line things up perfectly. And He did just that. 

I later realized that I couldn’t get this going until I was obedient in the first task of starting my organization Perfectly Imperfect Inc., enrolling in seminary, and taking a leap of faith to do both full time. Now, I personally would not have wanted to start a small group with all of this going on: full time student and building two businesses (I am also a Premier Design Independent Distributor selling jewelry in which all the proceeds help support Perfectly Imperfect Inc.).  But my timing is not God’s timing. So I continued to pray about this group. 

One day while driving, it hit me so hard…VIRTUE…that’s it! From there everything flowed perfectly! VIRTUE aims to encourage women to be women of virtue, women of grace, women of courage, women who are bold, and women who are unapologetic about who and what God has called them to be. 

This past Sunday was the kick off, and the feedback I received was enough confirmation that this group is needed…not just for the women…but more so for me!!! I need this group…I need to cultivate more VIRTUE…I need to be more of the woman God is desiring me to be…and I need every woman attending VIRTUE to be with me on this journey! 

In the snippet below, I’m sharing with the ladies on how blogging and Perfectly Imperfect Inc. came about. I couldn’t do this without sharing a little bit of my story…a story of how rejection and abandonment led to a promiscuous/party lifestyle, low self-esteem, depression and anxiety, and ultimately leading me to a transformation inspired by embracing the perfect, unconditional love of God. 

Remember this:

Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God!