Lessons From A Single: I Am Complete!

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow!! This day is a day that many singles dread. I can remember a time when I would dread this holiday as well. It was a reminder to me that I was once again alone, single, and no one wanted to be with me. Now you may have these feelings, but someone reading this does. And . . . this was totally me for years!!! Part of my problem was that I seriously did not think I was complete unless I was in a relationship. All through high school, college, and most of my 20’s was spent in some ways feeling the NEED to be in relationship with some guy. This thinking lead me down a road of failed relationships, increased insecurities, toxic relationships, to just hooking up and dating random guys out boredom or loneliness. I was not feeling complete at all . . . matter of fact, I began to feel broken. I was shattered, and eventually a piece of me left with every random I felt hooked to that showed me any type of attention.

One day, I got tired. I gave up. I cried out for help in this area of my life. I began drawing closer to God, ended up in therapy, my relationship with God became a priority, and I began to find healing. Healing . . . allowing God to love me . . . embracing and accepting that love . . . loving me . . . I became complete! I realized I was complete all along!!

Take a look at the video below, as I share more on how I came to this realization some years ago. My prayer is that this Valentine’s Day be a day to remind you of the one who created you, shaped you, has a plan and purpose for you . . . the one who loves you. No man . . . degree . . . status . . . material possession can fulfill you with love and joy like God can. Enjoy the video and remember to subscribe to my YouTube channel!

~ Hazel~

Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

Detour to Destiny

Good morning love bugs! I had another post in mind for this week, but this has been pressing on me harder. Maybe because this is currently where I find myself. Maybe because while I’m in a frustrating season, I’m trying to keep my faith and focus. Maybe because someone else is out there reading this, feeling relieved that they are not alone. I’m not sure, but whatever the reason is I know I needed to touch on this.

Many people who step out on faith, are not sure how God is going to lead them on their faith journey. They see the vision, the destination of where God is taking them, but often times are unsure of the journey it will take to get there. Yet…with all this uncertainty, they are sure that it will ALL come together…things will somehow work out. Sounds very inspiring right?

This is truly how I felt about stepping out on faith: walking away from my job to start building Perfectly Imperfect Inc., selling Premier Designs Jewelry to support Perfectly Imperfect Inc., attending seminary full time to get my Masters Degrees in Divinity and Marriage & Family Therapy. I had no clue how this journey would be, but I knew I needed to step out on faith and literally trust God for every measure of provision.

What happens when discouragement set in? What happens when you start to think that maybe you heard God wrong in this thing? What happens when you hit those extremely slow seasons in generating income and you begin to question everything?

It’s these frustrating moments that I can’t help but to believe that every entrepreneur or person who stepped out on faith have from time to time. It’s these moments that you feel that you are now on a crazy detour leaving you wondering if you will ever reach your destination.

So, after some time of feeling like this, and watching how God would subtly show me that I’m right on track, I began to feel this message: Detours does not always mean you will not reach your destiny.

And just like that…mood change! Attitude change! Disposition change! I have to embrace the detours that life can bring at times. So I took to Instagram yesterday with this message in case someone else was beginning to feel like I was feeling (see video below):

When life sends you on a detour, it could be God’s way of protecting you from some unseen danger/hinderance, the detour posed for a better route to help develop you, or maybe it’s God’s way of testing your patience and seeing if your disposition about the journey will change…who knows why we often experience detours…One thing is for sure is that if we keep our focus on the Lord we will reach the destination He has already predestined for us to receive! Keep pushing, keep pressing, keep persisting…You got this!!!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God!

No Escape

I have several nieces and nephews, and now great nieces and a great nephew. They all are very different and unique in their own way. Each of them have their own special relationship with me. While they are very different, they all had one thing in common when it came to me: they would follow me everywhere I would go. They were like my little shadows, and some of the really young ones are still this way.

They would follow so close sometimes that I would accidentally knock them down if I made a quick turn. There were times I felt like I couldn’t escape them. However, the older they got the less interested they became in what I was doing and where I was going…they began to discover their journey.

I can remember moments of feeling relieved when this would happen because then, I could easily escape from them to do what I want, eat what I want (you know you have snuck away to eat something so a kid wouldn’t see it and beg for some), and have conversations that I wanted without interruption or innocent ears present.

Reflecting on this about my nieces and nephews, made me think about my journey with God and moving toward my fulfilled purpose. I began to remember moments along the journey that I tried to escape God because I wanted to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to hang where I wanted to hang. Drink what I wanted to drink. Smoke what I wanted to smoke (that ended quickly). Sleep with whoever I wanted to sleep with. Yet there was No Escape.

Then I began to remember moments where amazing doors were opened. Where I found/find myself doing things that I never thought I would do. Traveling places I never dreamt of seeing. Meeting people I would have never thought to connect with. Realizing in these (and more) amazing high moments I never escaped God.

One thing I’m learning is this:

In this journey, there are high moments and low moments. There are moments when everyone is rallying around you, and moments when you have not one person to talk to. Times when you feel invited and times when you feel the invitation must have been lost in the mail. No matter where you are in this journey, no matter what is thrown at you, and no matter what mistakes you make along the way, God is always with you. With Him there is No Escape!

His love can reach you on whatever road in this journey you are on; and His grace is more than enough to sustain you. The reminds me of David’s words in Psalm 139:

“O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:1-10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

May you find peace in knowing that with God, there’s No Escape!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God.

What If?

Last week I found myself in a very interesting conversation with someone. We met at a local Starbucks (because secretly I believe that Starbucks is my office) to have a chat about God, spiritual direction, passion, and purpose. The only thing that was missing was a conversation about shoes, clothes, and all things sparkly . . . but considering I was having a conversation with a guy, I decided against bringing up all the girly stuff lol. Nevertheless, coffee and Jesus are my jam. In that case, I was fully enjoying this life-giving and rich conversation.

I found myself being all engaged in this moment as we sat and conversed for hours about the goodness of God while being kept warm with our hot beverages. Something happened in the middle of our conversation that surprised the both of us. Something came out of my mouth that shocked me, and yet has had me praising God ever since.

In the conversation, I was asked to share my story of how I felt God’s calling on my life that led me to leaping out on faith to start building my organization and attending seminary full time. So, I shared very candidly and openly about the journey so far; while being intentional to not only highlight the warm, fuzzy stuff about stepping out on faith. As I caught my coffee partner up to where I’m currently am on this journey of faith, he sat back in his chair and pondered for a moment. After a brief moment of silence, and I got to steal a few sips of my warm, yummy goodness, he began to smile. It appeared he was moved by the story (glory to God right). Then it happened . . .

My coffee partner for the evening looked at me and asked, “So, what do you have planned if this doesn’t work out? If after it’s all said and done, you discover it all didn’t work, what are you prepared to do?” Before thinking, the following words gushed out of my mouth: “I never considered that it wouldn’t work. So, to answer your question . . . I don’t know. I don’t know because I never thought that it couldn’t work.”

His immediate response was “Whoa!!!” Then I hit him with a “Whoa!!!” And he shot back at me, “No . . . seriously WOW!!! What a response!” I looked at him at said, “No, seriously . . . I can’t believe that came out. I’m just as shocked, but it’s my honest response. I have that much FAITH that what God is calling me to will come to fruition.”

What if

This moment in our amazing conversation brought an awareness for me. For years, I used to be a “worry wart”. Stepping out on faith like this was huge for me! It is still huge for me!! I knew when I did it, I would have to fully trust and rely on God in the process. Too often, we think of our “what if’s” as negative. I just got tired of that way of thinking. So, with the grace and strength from God, I began to make my “what if’s” positive. “What if it does work?” “What if you will be provided with all that you need?” “What if they do say yes?”

What is something you have been “what if’ing about”? Have you considered that whatever your “what if” is could be the very thing that God wants you to trust by faith on. One thing I left my coffee partner with, and I leave to end this blog post is this:

When you take the leap of faith, you will either soar or God will provide you a soft place to land. You will never know until you take the leap.

I hypothetically entertained my coffee partner’s “what if” question, and explained this:

If this vision does indeed not work out, I can rest assured knowing that:

  • I gave it my all and fully trusted God with the process, resulting in a deeper level of faith and trust in Him
  • It didn’t kill me trying
  • It only means that God will redirect me to something greater.


This year, let’s rethink our “what if’s” in life. Let’s turn those things over to God, and allow Him to fully take the wheel to steer us in the direction He wants us to go. Let’s look to Him to give us the courage to conquer fear to take the leap of faith that will push us closer to our destiny.


Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God.

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New Thing

open roadOne of my favorite things to do during the summer is to go on road trips or a long drive. Honestly, I am always down for a road trip at any time of the year. I think I actually just love driving for some reason. It is something so relaxing about being on the open road or in good flowing traffic with the windows down, music blasting, and having an abundance of snacks. There is nothing more aggravating then driving down a road that is rough, bumpy, and filled with pot holes. You then have to drive slower, and run the risk of damaging your tires on this rough road. If you are anything like me, you find yourself complaining the whole time wishing the pavement would smooth out soon or that the city would fix the road.

What’s crazy about this whole scenario is that once construction begins on the road, I complain about that as well. Sometimes we are never satisfied. Traffic is back up, you are at a standstill due to the work in progress, the drive is even slower, and it seems like it’s taking forever for the road to get fixed. Frustration, anger, anxiety, impatience . . . these emotions begin to stir up each time I take this route to my destination.

On a recent trip, I was driving north on I65. Anyone familiar with I65 from Indianapolis to Northwest Indiana, you know there is always construction happening. I remember when I65 was a little narrow and bumpy. I complained and murmured each time I drove that portion of the interstate. Later, the interstate widened allowing for more cars to flow through. Now, there is another section of the same interstate, in the same direction, that is going through construction. I again found myself murmuring and complaining. It then hit me:

Often, we shout over the new thing, but complain over the construction it takes.

construction pic

Isaiah 44:18-19 (NIV) states: “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I’m doing a new thing!”

Life has a way of presenting itself all sorts of bumpy roads. Sometimes these are things that we bring upon ourselves by the decisions we make . . . other times it’s to no fault on our own . . . and yet there are other times when it’s something within us and how we react/respond to situations that can cause things to be bumpy, full of holes, and uneasy. We complain, we cry, we get angry and frustrated . . . we even go as far as wanting to find a new route and take matters into our own hands.

We are instructed in the above scripture to forget the former things and to not dwell on the past. God cannot begin to do a new work in us if we keep holding on to how things used to be. It’s time to forget about those things that caused the roads in your life to be bumpy. We have to let God build a construction site within us so that we can be prepared for all the new things that He wants to do to us and through us.

So, what will your disposition be like when the construction begins? Are you complaining? Always angry? Bitter? Throwing a pity party? Impatient? Or will trust the Master to pave the way for you? Will you seek Him and cast your cares on upon Him? Will you not waver in your faith? Have patience?

The fact that the new thing is coming and that God is so gracious and merciful to make a new way for us, should be enough to give Him praise. We have to be patient during the construction of our lives. Shout for the construction just as much as you shout when the new take place.


Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God!

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