No Escape

I have several nieces and nephews, and now great nieces and a great nephew. They all are very different and unique in their own way. Each of them have their own special relationship with me. While they are very different, they all had one thing in common when it came to me: they would follow me everywhere I would go. They were like my little shadows, and some of the really young ones are still this way.

They would follow so close sometimes that I would accidentally knock them down if I made a quick turn. There were times I felt like I couldn’t escape them. However, the older they got the less interested they became in what I was doing and where I was going…they began to discover their journey.

I can remember moments of feeling relieved when this would happen because then, I could easily escape from them to do what I want, eat what I want (you know you have snuck away to eat something so a kid wouldn’t see it and beg for some), and have conversations that I wanted without interruption or innocent ears present.

Reflecting on this about my nieces and nephews, made me think about my journey with God and moving toward my fulfilled purpose. I began to remember moments along the journey that I tried to escape God because I wanted to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to hang where I wanted to hang. Drink what I wanted to drink. Smoke what I wanted to smoke (that ended quickly). Sleep with whoever I wanted to sleep with. Yet there was No Escape.

Then I began to remember moments where amazing doors were opened. Where I found/find myself doing things that I never thought I would do. Traveling places I never dreamt of seeing. Meeting people I would have never thought to connect with. Realizing in these (and more) amazing high moments I never escaped God.

One thing I’m learning is this:

In this journey, there are high moments and low moments. There are moments when everyone is rallying around you, and moments when you have not one person to talk to. Times when you feel invited and times when you feel the invitation must have been lost in the mail. No matter where you are in this journey, no matter what is thrown at you, and no matter what mistakes you make along the way, God is always with you. With Him there is No Escape!

His love can reach you on whatever road in this journey you are on; and His grace is more than enough to sustain you. The reminds me of David’s words in Psalm 139:

“O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:1-10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

May you find peace in knowing that with God, there’s No Escape!


Though you are Imperfect, you are loved by a Perfect God.

2 Months Too Long

Like many of you who subscribe to this blog, I too juggle a lot. These past two months I have not posted on this site . . . not because of lack of desire, but more so because of poor planning. There I said it! Perfectly Imperfect Inc. is very near and dear to my heart! So much so, that I am back in school full time to get a dual Masters both in Divinity and Marriage & Family Therapy, so that I can continue (with God’s help) building this organization. I sell Premier Designs jewelry, in which I earn 50% commission on all that I sell, to help support efforts for Perfectly Imperfect Inc. and overhead for working out of the home. Yep . . . two businesses! Perfectly Imperfect Inc. also has a wonderful women’s group called VIRTUE that meets monthly. Then of course there is this blog . . . the blog that birthed out this organization and the vision to see a world where women exude gentleness, grace, and confidence from a place of wholeness and love impacting generations to come.

This is my baby, my dream, the very essence of why I stepped out on faith to pursue this full time . . . and yet there are times where poor planning happens. The thing that gets missed the most is this blog. So, here we are 2 months later with a new post. I could totally beat myself up, but instead I’m giving myself grace. Yes, I need to plan better. Yes, I need to write posts as they come to me, and lock myself down to do so. Yes, I need to plan in my schedule days to write, and pre-schedule posts. Today . . . I choose grace for me instead of allowing myself to be a punching bag with blows of “could’ves, should’ves, and would’ves”.

What is something that you too have put off? Is there something that you have neglected due to poor planning? Maybe you too have been working hard, but things have kept you from doing tending to whatever it is you neglected. You keep thinking about it, and it hurts you because you just can’t seem to get to it. Now that you realize what that “thing” is that you have been neglecting, it’s time to get back to it. Don’t waste the time beating yourself up over the fact that you haven’t given it the amount of attention you used to give it (whatever your “it” is). Give yourself grace and get to work. Intentionally do whatever it takes to get back to where you were. If what you neglected is something that is very important to you, then be persistent. Life has a way of presenting many challenges and obstacles that can throw us off, but get back up. Even if 2 months go by . . . get back to it. Remember, your work, your efforts, your dedication is not in vain . . . keep moving forward. Be gracious to you!

HazelO136Though you are imperfect, you are loved by a perfect God! – Hazel


Delay Doesn’t Mean Denial

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I typically do not make a blog post without praying about it, and going through it to make sure it reads exactly how I need it to read. But this morning is a little different. . .

This morning my heart is going out to those who struggle with God’s delay! I too at times have a hard time understanding why certain things haven’t happened for me yet. Why I have strong, burning desires for things & it seems like I’m being stalled on seeing them fulfilled. It seems like the very desires I have is happening for everyone else but me! I at times question: When is it going to be my turn? 

Maybe you feel this way now or have felt this way before. Maybe you too are wondering: 

  • When will it be my turn to marry? How much longer do I have to wait for my spouse? How many more relationships do I have to see before I enter my own? 
  • Remember God that child you promised me? Why haven’t I conceived? Why did you allow me to conceive just so I can have a miscarriage? Now I’m surrounded by pregnant women. When will it be my turn? 
  • You gave me this vision but it’s a struggle to get it off the ground. I see so many people operating in their calling, and yet you are making me hold on to the vision because the timing isn’t right. 
  • Lord my ministry isn’t operating at the level you told me it would. Yet I keep seeing all of these other ministries growing & blossoming! When will my ministry take off? 
  • I have been trying to advance in my career but every door I try to walk into, you shut! So many of my friends and coworkers are excelling in their career field, and I can’t get out of my current job. You know I don’t want to be where I’m at. You know how much I despise what I’m doing. When will it be my turn to move on?

I know first hand how difficult it is to experience delay. . .To have to wait for something that is promised to you. To have to see your very desire daily but God says not right now. Yes, it sucks! It’s frustrating! But God is still faithful! 

We have to remind ourselves that our delay is not God’s denial. He hears your cries, He sees every tear that soaks up your pillow, and He feels your pain, but there is purpose behind it all. Instead of focusing on your delay, seek God for wisdom in the process. Ask Him what it is He is trying to reveal to you while He has you on delay from the very thing He promised you. Seek Him to be sure that your desire is His desire for your life. 

God makes due on His promises! So don’t let the enemy trick you into believing that it won’t happen for you. God has not forgotten about you! He is aware of the promises He made towards you. It’s time to shift your focus off of your lack and fix your eyes back on Him. He is trying to show you something! Understand that your delay may be God’s way of protecting you from something. If He gave it to you too soon, it may cause more harm than good. Know He is in control. God loves you and He cares. He wants His very best for you! His timing is perfect!

Your delay is not your denial…your time/turn is coming…be patient! 

Be blessed! 


Happy Valentine’s Day!! A Special Message to Singles

Wishing you a very Happy Valentine’s Day!! I pray that each of you feel special, loved, and appreciated on this day and every day!

Singles…please don’t let what this day represent force you to sulk and be depressed. I know it’s frustrating and you cannot wait for this season of singleness to end. I know because I too at times feel that way! But you are in a very good place because God is saving you for His very best!

Rest assured that He knows every emotion you are dealing with today, yesterday, and how you may feel tomorrow. Trust and believe that He knows what He is doing. I write this with tears in my eyes because my heart goes out to you. I remember how upset this holiday used to make me feel. Even though I’m at a better place, sometimes the devil will still try to attack me to make me forget the love that God has for me, and the fact that God has not forgotten about me.

So my fellow single, understand that this is a day of love. You don’t have to receive flowers, jewelry, candy, or have a nice dinner given to you by some random guy (who is probably not meant to be with you anyway) in order for you to celebrate this holiday.

Celebrate the fact that God loves you…that he is going to bring you someone to love you with unconditional love EVERYDAY not just one day out the year…that you will have someONE who will take you on dates for a lifetime & not a lifetime full of random dates…that He made you so He knows what’s best for you…that He surrounded you with true, genuine friends and family members that care for you…most importantly, celebrate the fact that God has not forgotten about you!! So spend some time in His presence and let God know how much you love Him. Then, grab your single girlfriends and go out and have some fun. If they are “booed” up, then take yourself out, buy yourself some flowers, cook yourself a nice meal, spend time with your first love (God)…whatever you decide to do, seek out the love that already exists around you!

If no one tells you this today, let me be the one to say:

I love you! I’m praying for you! And Happy Valentine’s Day!!


Fight Her Spirit; Not Her Part 2

Here we go Part 2 . . . Be sure to read Part 1

You have to keep in mind that you’re fighting a spirit. In order to do this, you are going to need to put on the whole armor of God.

Ephesians 6:11-18 (NIV) says: 11.Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12.For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13.Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14.Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15.and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16.In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17.Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18.And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

So to fight her spirit you have to take a stand against the devil’s tactics to make you want to fight her. It goes on to say for you to put on the full armor of God so when evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground. And after you have done everything, you stand!

With the armor of God and the strength of God, you can stand against the enemies tactics. You don’t have to stoop or fall to her level. But if you don’t rely on the strength and power of God, and you don’t put on the full armor of God, her spirit will start to stir up negative things within you. Next thing you know, you are just as mean and nasty back to her because the enemy tricked you into thinking that it’s her (her flesh). He used her to tap dance on every nerve you have until he got you to fight against her. This is why you can’t rely on your own emotions. You can’t fight this fight alone. You have to be ready for war! Get your strength from God, and put in the full armor just like a soldier ready for battle.

What is this full armor?

I love that in verse 13 of this passage it says to “put on” the full armor of God. To put something on means that you already have access to it. You can’t put something on that you don’t have or can’t access quickly.

The very first piece mention is the belt. The Roman soldiers’ belt held the armor in place. You have to wear the belt of truth when fighting her spirit. Understand that the devil is a liar! He will have you thinking all sorts of wicked thoughts about her and about what you think she thinks about you. We have to rely on the truth of God’s word. Understand the devil’s schemes, how to properly handle your emotions, what God says about the way we handle our enemies . . . you need the belt of truth to hold everything together.

Breastplate: The breastplate has to be in place to protect the soldier’s heart. The righteousness of God protects our hearts from the emotions that the devil will stir up as a result of his lies. He will use her to attack your self-esteem, play on your insecurities, build distrust in others, promote fear, or even try to harden your heart. If you wear the breastplate of righteousness, God’s righteousness will protect your heart. God will show you what He approves about you, and remind you who you are in him. Thus, you will conduct yourself towards her in the way God would want you to; not in the way your anger, frustration, hurt feelings, or feelings of fear would want you to react.

Shield: The soldier’s shield protects him from harmful things (arrows) being thrown at him. Hold up the shield of faith. Have faith in knowing that you have the victory over her evil spirit. You can still be in her presence with a smile on your face and a sweet good morning on your lips, and know that there is nothing she can do/throw at you to make you fall or stoop to her level. You’ve won this battle, and your kindness will only force her to look at what is wrong with her.

Helmet: The helmet protects your head. Your head is covered with God’s salvation. Be reminded of God saving you, and delivering you. So when she is acting ugly, you don’t have to “put your Christianity on a shelf”, and break her off one. Don’t let the enemy make you doubt or forget all the work God has done and is doing within you. Don’t let her get in your head, sis!

Lastly, the sword: The sword is the word of God. It goes along with the belt of truth. We need God’s word as our offense to satan’s attacks. We have to trust the truth of God’s word.

How hard is it remember to put on the full armor of God? Let me be the first to admit this this is rough…which is why I realized I can’t do this on my own…Part 3 coming soon!