How many times have you come across someone and thought “she doesn’t like me”? Or someone is mean and nasty to you and can’t figure out why? How many times have you been treated this way by her and repaid her by being mean and evil as well? Maybe you had to deal with someone who had an issue with you or maybe you thought they had an issue with you.
I think it’s safe to say that at some point we all have felt this way. Some of you are probably having these thoughts right now. Now grant it, you are not crazy for thinking this way. You may be justified for those thoughts because you are basing it off of her behavior towards you.
She comes off rude and nasty towards you for what appears to be no reason. You notice a funky attitude every time you are around her. She rolls her eyes at you, is very short and dry when she speaks to you . . . and you notice she doesn’t do this to anyone else. When you are in her presence, you can feel the tension. It’s worse for you when others pick up on how she treats you. After a while, you feel like you can’t take it anymore. So you say or think things with an attitude as well like: “What is her problem?” “I’m sick of her!” “If she can’t speak to me then I WON’T speak to her!” (Insert eye roll, neck roll, & finger snap because you are about to show her)
I know I’m not the only one that has experienced this.
As women, we are so emotionally wired thus making us very sensitive to these types of behaviors. Some of us will immediately try and figure out what we did to anger her, to hurt her, or to offend her. We will replay encounters in our head to try to figure out if we owe her an apology. We may even seek the Lord to help us figure it out. But once we reach a level of peace about it, after trying to be cordial again, we wash our hands with it. If you’re anything like me, you will say “Oh well…I tried,” and leave her alone all together. You then tend to interact with her on a need to basis. He still working on me y’all . . .
Now, some in this situation would totally cut her off. There’s no praying about it, and definitely no searching to see if an apology is needed on your behalf. If you’re this person, your thoughts could be: “If anything she should be apologizing to me.” You will either be just as mean and nasty right back or totally act like she is dead to you.
Which reaction is yours?
I’m not saying that one reaction is right or wrong. The issue is that in both cases we tend to take it personally when people treat us unfairly, nasty, are rude, mean, etc. As humans we all have a need to be needed or have a sense of belonging. Many of us don’t handle rejection well. Some of us have a high need for feeling liked or accepted by others that we will go through great lengths to try to win them over.
Understand that everyone is not going to like you. People are going to be moody and attitudinal towards you. In many instances, there may not appear to be a sound/logical reason why she treats you this way. This is because your spirit and her spirit do not mesh well. It’s not her you are fighting sis, it’s her spirit! Again, you are fighting against a spirit not her flesh.
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 6:12 NIV)
There is a spiritual war going on. The enemy will have you thinking all sorts of crazy thoughts about her so he can turn you against her. He wants you to hate her. He wants you to think that it’s her you have to fight. The devil is a liar! You don’t have to fight her, you have to fight her spirit!
Know that this fight is bigger than you. Since the fight is bigger than you, you’re going to need some reinforcements . . .
Part 2 coming soon!