So one day I was watching a little day time T.V. (which rarely happens), and the preview for the next episode of Maury came on during the commercial break. Trisha Goddard was the guest speaker for the next episode. In that short preview she spoke to a young lady and said, “If you don’t like the fish you are catching, then it is time to change the bait. Work on you.” Instantly, I fell in love with that saying. We all know the saying “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”. While there is plenty of fish, we have the tendency to use the same ‘ol bait to catch these fish. Try changing your bait and maybe the type of fish you desire will bite.
So here it is:
When Trisha Goddard spoke those words, my first thought was “she is so right”. When you take the time to really work on you (changing the bait), you start to view things differently. It’s so funny how some women end up in one bad relationship after the other. That was me. Then some women get out of that jacked up relationship or sexship just to end up in the same predicament three months later. What did they do between the two relationships? Tried to rush the next relationship to either make the ex jealous, because they were afraid of being alone, or because someone told them that the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one. By the way that’s the worst piece of advice anyone can give someone after a breakup. Where did that come from anyway?? In my case, I think I used to rush the next relationship because I was afraid of being alone . . . single. That was until I made up in my mind that in order for me to get the healthy relationship I so desired, I needed to work on me. I needed to change my bait. I focused on myself and what it is about me that attract the lame guys (small fish) I was attracting. I got back to the goals I set for myself. I spent more one on one time with God. I embraced being single. I got to a place where I enjoyed me. I am determined not to settle for the foolishness I was settling for in the past. I learned that when you work on yourself, that is when you truly understand your virtue.
Hearing Trisha Goddard say that put a smile on my face, and I began to think back. I changed my bait a few years ago. That’s not to say I don’t get the small, weak fish that bite my hook; but now I know when to throw them back in the water.