To let something or someone go is a very hard process. I believe that once you do let whatever it is go, there’s some relief. It may still hurt a little, but in the long run you may find that what you let go of was best for you. Sometimes you have to face the reality of your situation and make the decision to either hold on or let it go.
I think people have the tendency of holding onto things way longer than what you’re supposed to. Like those size 7/9 jeans in the back of your closet. You haven’t worn them in ages. You are now a size 12 and going back to a size 7/9 is not in your near future because you aren’t doing anything about your weight anyway. I know I’m not the only one on this. Let them jeans go!!! One day you might be back in the size 7/9, but accept the fact of where you are now. Unless you are gonna commit and work hard to change it . . . let them go!
Sometimes we hold on to bad relationships like we do our “too little” jeans. Either you or him are not putting in any work to fix what’s wrong or the two of you are just not working out; so let it go. This was something I struggled with for a long time. Holding on to no good relationships, with the hope that something will improve. I found myself fighting for the relationship alone. Getting to the point where you realize it’s time to let go is hard to do. You feel like maybe you are making a mistake. On the flip side you are not happy and you know that it’s not working. Yet you hold on to what could be or what you want it to be, just like the “too little” jeans in your closet. Let it go! I’ve learned that if it’s not working, don’t force it. I do feel that any relationship requires work, but the two of you have to work together.
In some of my situations where I didn’t want to let go, God did it for me. The problem with that is I used to try to pull the person back in my life. Crazy huh? I then learned that some people God put in your life for just a season. So when the season changes you have to be prepared for the next season. God removed them for a reason.
In other situations (more recently), I began to realize more quickly when to let go. It’s never easy but it has to be done. The easiest is when the two of you agree that it’s time to let go. This just happened to me. What we had was not working. We both knew it but for some reason didn’t speak on it. Then it finally just came out. Since it wasn’t working we decided to let it go.
Experience is a good teacher. I still have much to learn. Trust me there are still some things (non relationship) that I’m trying to let go of. I will get there.